Updated: Nov 16, 2019
I have been a police officer for 4 years now and have responded to and also assisted on thousands of radio calls. Some are handled quickly and easily, but the most technical investigations, in my personal opinion, have been sexual assaults. Sexual assaults can be one of the most difficult crimes to gather information for due to victims being embarrassed, in denial, and or just plain afraid. The majority of sex crimes committed never get reported. Statistics gathered from www.rainn.org state that every 98 seconds an American is sexually assaulted, and only 6 out of 1,000 perpetrators will end up in prison.
One way our society can make sure more perpetrators get sent to prison for the crimes they have committed is to understand what constitutes as a sex crime, which can allow you to report it immediately and appropriately.
There of more than a dozen sexual related crimes but the most common sexual related crimes would include touching for sexual gratification, attempted rape, forcible rape, and penetration with a foreign object, just to name a few. All of these are criminal acts and all need to be reported immediately.
8% percent of sexual assaults happen at work, and though I have never been in the Spa Industry, I can only imagine what some of you reading this have experienced or may experience in the future. Whether it is inappropriate comments a client makes or has made to you all the way to inappropriate gestures, touching, or passes at you, it needs to be ended quick, fast, and in a hurry.
It can be difficult to speak up and say no to these behaviors, especially when it is coming from a paying client and you are trying to build a clientele. Maybe you don't want to lose business. Maybe you don't want to come across as prudish or uptight. Sometimes people rationalize that they're taking it too seriously when it was meant as a joke. So a lot of people say nothing in these situations.
But you have to remember that saying nothing and not addressing these issues with clients is actually saying a lot, and not in your favor.
No one matters more than you. No one has the right to take away your personal safety or peace of mind. You need to set boundaries and if that means you lose a couple hundred bucks on a client or two then so be it. Your self-respect, your life, and remembering that you matter first is worth more than any amount of money. So don't be afraid to speak up and take care of yourself. And don't forget that you are strong, you are wise, you are tough, and most of all you are Spa Strong.